I ask this question all the time…to myself, but never to those I care about. I would hate to think that I am, and if I have been, I am sorry to those affected.
I wish I was like you; able to cruise through life, feel the wind in my hair, relax and talk about my feelings without getting upset. But right now I can’t because I am afflicted…with anxiety.
I am struggling. Some days you can see it and some days you can’t (mostly the former). Some days I see it and some days I can’t.
I don’t want to be a burden. I don’t want to drain, hurt or smother. I just want to be like you; neutral, content, carefree, accepted and loved.
One day maybe I can, but not right now. I do and am seeking help in the right places but I can’t change overnight. You see I have been battling mental illness for almost half my life…yes HALF my life. Almost 15 years of constant struggles with my core. In the last few years I have made triumphs and breakthroughs but I’ve also had setbacks and meltdowns.
Every few steps forward, and I’ll take a big step back, still progressing but it’s slow, and painful; both physically and mentally draining.
I just want you to know, I am here and I am fighting for my right to live a life like everyone else, not perfect, not extraordinary and not any different; just a life better than I am (mentally) living at this point in time.
Today has been a good day…you see I do have them. I woke up, got ready, did the school drop off, avoided highway traffic, had a fairly productive work day (and I actually took my lunch break offsite with a friend), I finished work on time, came home early, went to the doctor, home for dinner, bedtime routine, making lunches and tidied the lounge and kitchen…now I’m here…typing out this post on my phone, whilst sitting on the couch eating a cup of fruit (pineapple, raspberries and strawberries – and no needles found for those of you who watch Australian news) and intermittently observing the cat trying to trap the odd bug dancing in the kitchen. So today has been a good day.
Earlier in the week…not so much…I had a meltdown…wish I didn’t…wish there wasn’t collateral but here was. That is what I have to contend with on bad days…collateral…my relationships (partner, family, friends, work colleges, and the cat) don’t always get to “avoid” that traffic.
So I AM A BURDEN, but I’m working on it. Years of trying to overcome the internal self esteem battle will do that to you; thinking you are not good enough, being neglected and rejected by those you love. Suppressing the one thing that has been missing from your life all of these years and letting it drive you crazy.
But I’m working on it. I hope you can understand that my brain doesn’t work the way yours does, my emotions can get out of control, but I have the warmest heart you will ever find.
I am me and I’m getting to where I want to be…one day at a time.
Please support your friends and family who have to battle themselves on a daily basis whether they have mental illnesses or not; we are all in this together, and in the words of Ellen “be kind to one another”
Stay awesome 😉
The Girl in the Green Shoes